First of all, learn to distinguish between your emotions and your behaviour. Being aware of your emotions is one thing, but expressing them is another. If you express negative emotions, then there is danger to step back in your progress instead of going forward. Don’t express negative emotions during or after sex with your woman.
If you come fast, instead of getting angry or disappointed in front of your partner, ask her for a few minutes to relax and then offer to satisfy her in any way she desires. Accept your negative emotions, learn from them, but don’t allow them to influence negatively what you learned.
Exercise some emotional self-control and don’t let immobilizing emotions derail your progress. Accept, at the same time, your partner’s emotions. Listen to her, showing her your appreciation and warmth even if you don’t agree with her.
For instance, you can choose to accept the fact that she became angry, even if you don’t agree with her interpretation of what happened. Don’t try to change how she feels.
Interestingly enough, listening to her potential complaint or anger after your fast ejaculation is the only thing you can do to help her feel differently.
Observe your emotions
Observing your emotions creates distance between you and your emotions. Imagine you are a little explorer who enters your body and looks for the areas where each emotion is expressed.
Where in your body do you experience joy? In your face? Eyes? Mouth? Chest? Legs? Where do you experience anxiety or fear? In your stomach? Chest? Maybe, in your cold hands? How about anger? Can you feel it in your cheeks, ears, neck, and stomach? And what about anger? Doubt? Eroticism? When you feel the urge to express an emotion (e.g. at times when you are very angry, sad or scared, or when you feel anxiety on whether your woman will eventually come), observe carefully the position of your body, pay attention to the reactions of your muscles, of your breath, and every other change you experience in your body.
Once you detect them and feel them, let your body relax and overcome the tension. Now, imagine that you a build a protective wall around you. This wall is so STRONG that nothing can penetrate it! Feel the safety in this wall and start to relax even more. Take a few deep breaths, and with each exhalation let any muscular or mental tension go away from you.
Inside the wall you feel INVINCIBLE and FEARLESS. You are the man who is afraid of NOTHING and conquers ALL. Observe the emotion you want to erase. Tell yourself “I am not my emotions! I am myself and I am safe in this situation no matter how hard it seems!” Now, relax even more and let the sense of safety fill your entire body completely.
Repeat this exercise every time you experience a negative emotion. With this exercise you can start controlling your reaction towards a negative emotion you are feeling. It’s important to learn NOT to express them, especially in front of your woman/sexual partner because such an attitude will impede your progress.
Accept your negative emotions, calm down, and DO NOT let them overwhelm you. Most importantly, DO NOT let any negative emotion make you pessimistic about the effectiveness of these new techniques and behaviors.
Remember always that you are the one who CHOOSES his emotions, positive or negative, and you are the one who CAN CHOOSE the way you think. Focus on your physical sensations every time you are worried about ejaculating prematurely.
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